22 July 2013

Some time back I saw this message and wrote it down.  I was trying to reconcile a relationship and work out the steps of moving forward because I wanted so badly for it to continue.  Sadly, I am slowly learning a deeper lesson from it.

“Sometimes you choose to forgive people simply because you still want them in your life” … and sometimes doing so is futile because when you are dealing with mental illness or shear toxic self-absorbed behaviors there is no reconciliation, no peace, no harmony.

If that someone cannot address you with a civil tone, show some compassion and remain silent when there is no benefit in what is said; then your spirit and soul are better off removed from them.

Lies, manipulation, controlling, abusive, narcissistic, self-absorbed, playing the victim role, refusing to see their own faults and failures…these things lead to a heartache and destruction.

There comes a time to heal. Move beyond, and live a life free of the discontentment and destructive behaviors. Not everyone will grow and mature at the same pace but in their time, through life’s experiences, they will.

There comes a time to be set free from the crazy, the drama, the abuse. At those times, you are better off without certain people in your life.  Hard lesson but true… and sadly I am removing people from my life in the hope they can no longer hurt me and the ones I love.

So… “Sometimes you choose to forgive people even though you know they cannot remain in your life.”