10-18-17

For that matter most don’t really want to hear about it either.  Sexual abuse and the exploitation of young women and girls.  Please refer back to My Voice  where I attempt to explain the modern movements for transgender rights and how they infringe on the rights of the sexually abused.

An abused child… a young child abused by family friends and family members.  I am in my sixties and I still can not reconcile my emotions about it all.

I didn’t speak of my abuse until I was nearly 50, when I attempted to explain the trauma and effects that still haunt me, I was met with responses like… ‘That was a long time ago, what difference does it make now.” Or “You should move on and stop living in the past”

It made people uncomfortable that they had turned a blind eye to this scourge and assault against children. Abusing them at the same time telling them to be pure and moral.

#MeToo.  There is an  outrage going on right now with a social media hashtag #metoo. Does a wink, a proposition or off color joke equate equally to a violent rape or the rape and a molestation of a child? Does #metoo lessen the seriousness and  the tragedy of  these victims? In some cases is the response disproportionate to the event?

Why the outrage now? Did it become fashionable to be part of #metoo?

The ‘casting couch’ was something that was talked about for years.  Hugh Hefner exploited women and was lauded for years for his progressive views on sexuality.  Hollywood regularly puts out ‘art’ that shows abuse of woman.  Some woman were often willing to participate in quid-quo-pro arrangements for varying reasons that benefited their objectives.

So if someone #metoo and 20 people respond with sad emoticons, that should make it all better now, right?

No, it doesn’t make it better for victims, true victims of true crimes.

We live in a fallen deprived world.  Teachers abusing students, priests abusing children, fathers, brothers, cousins abusing young family members, it is going on maybe as close as next door.   

Someone asked me, how do we find these victims?  Sadly, it is difficult if not impossible. Fear, threats and intimidation keep children silent.

This note started almost one year ago, but never published because… because it’s complicated, because I had opposing views on the issue that I couldn’t quite articulate in a way that fully explained my views.

Now, one year later, we have a situation where an accusation is made from 36 years ago.  Who to believe?

The events that occurred in my youth have taken me through varying stages; Secrecy, declaration, aggression, anger, shame, acceptance, understanding and forgiveness.   It will always be part of my history and there are times it causes a reaction that surprises me and can instantly transport me to a place I thought I had moved beyond.

Yet, when I hear people say, “Every woman should be heard.” My response was, “but not every woman should be believed.”

All women are not inherently pure, honest and free of evil.  Nor are all men inherently dark, deceitful, and predators.

Both groups are human.  Examples of good and bad in each are recorded throughout history.

I have known several men who have been falsely accused for various reasons by women, all of which are or were self-serving so that they could obtain what they wanted  by any means necessary.  It is a disgusting evil, not in the same category as the former but can destroy a person just the same.

I don’t have a firm opinion who is right and who is wrong in the current media circus and collective outrage over the confirmation hearings.  However, the manner in which these accusations were handled and politicized, are suspect to me. Because of life experiences, I cannot condemn him or her.

It is tragedy all around being played out before our eyes.   I am not a fan of the media and this cynical assessment of them started over 30 years ago.  I have always felt they have a lot of power to manipulate, indoctrinate and influence people.  I question the motives of the political ruling class and I don’t have a high regard for attorneys. All of the above can twist information to cross the line of truth, travel along the path of truth but never truly tell the truth and nothing but truth; only a shadow of it.

In the end, I will maintain my peace.  Nothing that is going on is going to destroy my relationships with my family or friends.  Each of us have a history that leads us to our own conclusions. I believe the ultimate goal is to divide us, build up hate and resentment between us so that they, those in power or those who want power, can achieve their objectives.

Remember this and if you are a victim of abuse, assault or false acquisitions have faith that in the end, like Job, we don’t know why we suffered these tragedies but it one day it will be made clear.

Psalms 34:19

The righteous person may have many troubles, but the LORD delivers him from them all;

Be it ever so humble there is no place like home. This old house had been my mother’s home since 1974. She wanted to breath her last breath here but it was not to be. Today she accepted that her new home is the nursing facility in her hometown.

A long emotional week but I know it is the right decision.

So many things fell into place today, I know God was guiding us through every step.

Another season of life.

I am so thankful for my friend and sister Paulette for her love and support. Sisters not by blood but by heart ❤️ We struggled, laughed and cried through it all. I love you sis.

We are without time
Drifting in an empty space,
Somewhere between earth and eternity
A holy solemn place.

Waiting, waiting, holding on
Counting every breath,
What’s the purpose of this slow suffering,
Lingering between life and death?

Oh Lord, we wanted him so to stay,
We prayed his life you’d extend
But now oh Lord we have let go,
Please let his trials end.

Please touch us Lord
Hold us close, send us your peace
Call your angels to his side,
For heaven is where his glory will increase.

We are without time,
Drifting in an empty space
Waiting God’s final call
With His mercy and His grace.

©️Trish Bee

September 2018

• These thoughts from 18 months ago reached out to me again today and seem more relevant than ever.

3/15/17

I’ve been thinking a lot about life and the cycles of life and how sometimes it can change, in a short period if time, never to be how it was before again.  

It is not the subtle changes, it is the significant ones.  The cycles can remain unchanged for years, there may be bumps and slight detours along the way but basically you are on a journey and the path is familiar and comfortable.  Then comes an event that totally turns your world around, and returning to the previous day and age is not possible.   You enter a new cycle it seems to be a dramatic step in the direction which your life will make an irreversible change. 

Adapting to this change in  cycle feels hollow, you are lost, unsteady in your action and unsure of what even tomorrow might bring.  You can no longer look at tomorrow and somewhat predict its possibilities.  So each day begins with a deep breath and faith that you will survive whatever comes your way. 

Hatred is like a weed that grows and spreads its seeds with the wind.

Hatred is the wind that blows its discourse through the trees.

Hatred is like tree with a shadow so great that nothing grows beneath it.

Hatred is like a shadow that darkens the depths of your heart.

Hatred is like your heart with no blood and nothing to pump to your veins.

Hatred is like your veins with no life left in them.

Hatred is death.

Hatred disguises itself as things that Sound so gentle… seeds, wind, trees, shadows and hearts and life giving veins. That is how It creeps into your life recognize it before it’s too late.

Trish ©️ 2018

I was recently reminded of three coalescing events that came together to create a humorous story and possibly set biologists in search of a mystery.

In 1995, I had a 5 year old son and a 21 year old son.

First, the older son bought his little brother a battery operated motorcycle. A police motorcycle with a siren and flashing lights.

Secondly, months later my little son and I bought a children’s movie called , The Mouse and the Motorcycle.

Lastly, we saw a mouse in the house!

Our house sat in the middle of five wooded acres and as many know a mice can enter through a hole the size of a dime. In the winter these little creatures of the forest find there way inside of food.

One evening we spotted one of these adorable little creatures with it cute nose, dark eyes and big ears. Really, if you look objectively at these little furry guys they are adorable.

Well, the rest of the story goes like this. Five-year old spots adorable mouse and is convinced he came to ride his motorcycle, just as the mouse in the video does. We are not allowed to trap and kill this adventurous police motorcycle seeking mouse.

The next day we proceed to the hardware store and purchase a live trap. That evening we bait the trap and voilà, 45 minutes later motorcycle-mouse is caught. Yes, he was adorable and disregarding all the pleas from the five year old to keep him. He was marched into the woods and released.

Problem solved… except maybe just to be sure, we set it again. Again, another mouse in short order was marched into the forest. And again. And again.

You get the picture here. Lots of mice evidently. We began searching for the draw into the house. All food items in paper boxes or accessible packing were tightly sealed in plastic containers. As we searched, we thought possibly they were getting into the trash. We pulled the bag out of the bin and took it outside.

To our surprise, the next morning there were two little little mice inside the trash can doing high jumps trying to escape the tall sides of the can.
The trash can was quickly marched into the forest. When a stick was placed into the can the furry little pests scurried up the stick and leaped off the end of the stick onto the forest floor below like cliff divers swan diving into the sea.

The next night, we threw some crackers in the bottom of the bin Score four. The next score three. The next five… you get the picture. All of these little furry friends, like the ones before, made their bold climb and free fall into the forest.

About this time, DrB begins to wonder are we catching the same mice over and over. I personally don’t believe it is possible as it is a long way back to the house. However, he believes they probably make it back to the house before we do.

The next night, the bait is set again. And again, three mice (not blind). To prove his theory, DrB takes some yellow model paint and paints stripes down each of their backs before taking them to make their death-defying leap.

The next night catch four. Again, yellow stripes and release. The next five, paint and release.

By this time, after a week we had caught and released around 30 mice and never did a yellow-striped one reappear. Our compassionate solution had run its course. We called a pest control company and the technician told me something that has stuck with me. “Where there is one, there is a hundred” and “a family of six mice can multiply into 60 over the course of three months”

In short order, the problem was solved. Now comes to the question that may never be answered.

Around that time King County was placing insect collection boxes on trees. We wondered, what if one day a biologist that came out to collect the boxes happened to see one of these yellow striped mice, maybe he’d still be out searching for this new breed even now.

With the tearful heart of a Mother,
I watch this procession of Blue.
To lay to rest a Hero,
Who’s sacrifice was loyal and was true.

For this New Year, I pray
Lord bring,
New hope, new friends, new kindness, a New well-spring
Of joy, of compassion and of abundant
New life.
Please put a hold on the seemingly
Endless strife.

As you bring the dawn to each
Morn anew,
Remind me this precious gift comes only
From You.
And when the stars appear in the eve,
Glittering bright,
Bring to mind that they also gleam in the
Darkest night.

Seasons roll by at a steady speed, unfolding to
Moments unknown.
Help me stay ever mindful, that You are always on
The throne.
When it comes to the end of this year and
These days,
Whatever may come, may I always
Give praise.

~ Trish 2018©️

I want to say and believe,
Oh heart do not be troubled.
My heart is saying please know
It is your mind that holds the struggle.

Controlling those fears that wrestle –
Throughout this spirit of mine.
Takes a power far greater than I hold
It takes a force divine.

I want lay these burdens down
Then calmly walk away.
However, I also want solutions
Before I face another day.

Oh heart please rest, and spirit
Please be patient and be still.
For you know that all the future holds
Will be in His sovereign will.

~i~ Tea 2017©️

I am having a really hard time moving on and getting focused today. I have something on my mind that I feel needs to come out. Sometimes I am not even sure what it is, but it seems if I just start typing it will form some kind of thought and create some peaceful space that enables me to function.

It is October; we are on the fast track to the end of this year and what another hard year it has been. As everyone else did this morning, I woke up to here the horrifying news of another mass shooting, this one in Las Vegas. Another crazy murderous person has taken his anger, frustration, hatred to the ultimate level and destroyed the lives of people he doesn’t even know. Isn’t that pretty much the definition of all mass murderers? You can call them terrorist, or sort them by their religion or political views but really they are people so consumed by their beliefs and hatred that they lash out on innocent people. They have no respect for life and they often take their own lives in the process; they do not value their life why would they value others?

I love this age of instantaneous communication and connecting people, but as with all things it has its downside. It is instantaneous and therefore everyone believes they have the right to say anything to anyone in any manner they please, instantly and without forethought. You know that statement, “Don’t read the comments?” What about don’t respond to the comments, don’t make comments filled with hate and destruction.

We have moved to an age where awareness of “bullying” is in the forefront, yet people make comments in social media, on the news, in sports, in Hollywood, on the floors of Congress and yes, even in the highest office in our land that are just what they preach against. They are divisive, mean-spirited, comments said without thought or care about who is insulted or harmed. Have we reached the point to where we have lost all human decency and respect for one another?

It seems every day people are in a heated battle for their beliefs. I have beliefs, I was not a fan Mr. Obama and I am not a racist. I started the year in 2008 counting the days until the end of his term and after a while I discovered it wasn’t the end of the world. However, I knew people that believed, fervently some truly horrible things about him and his family.  I tried to look at him as a man with two young daughters that really only wanted what was best for them and their future. I disagreed with things he said and did but I did not come unglued over the whole thing for the next eight years.

I was not a fan of some of George Bush’s policies, although I thought he was a decent man and I am not an overwhelming supporter of Mr. Trump. However, I look at his family and his children and think the same thing. He is a man who really wants the best for his family and their future, so I am hoping he would create the same for mine. Will he do things that I disagree with? Yes, but the US is bigger than any, one, man. The United States of America is all of us. The United States of America is all of us. We all make a difference each day in how we treat each other, how we respect each other, how we help each other and how we remember we are above all, Americans. Abraham Lincoln said it best, “A house divided against itself cannot stand,” and popular music harmonized it in the song, “United we Stand, Divided we Fall”

The people you see on the news the rich, the famous, the powerful they may be the popular face of America, but they are a very small percentage of us as a whole. I hear or read disparaging comments about other races or religions, but I can honestly say the people that make these comments are not part of my daily life. I greet everyone with a smile and everyone I greet returns the same. Furthermore, I am a conservative, and I have liberal friends, I have far right and far left friends, friends that I have socialized with for years 30 years. Every time we are together we laugh and share our common goals, share about our families and we love each other. We have not torn our friendship apart over these times or any election.

What will tear us apart? Hate. Hate for those who are different, hate so strong you forget common decency and respectful speech for some little bit of self-satisfaction of venting ones anger and frustration.

I am telling you, life is way too short. Hate and the need to hate can consume people. I pray God, don’t let it be me, don’t let it be those I love; remind me of the important things in life and please protect me from reading the comments.

If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men.

Romans 12:18 NAMS

Hello September ❤️ I’ve written many reflections about my views when September rolls around and this year is no different. It marks for me a new beginning and saying goodbye to those hot August days looking forward to the new year it brings for me.

This year I am feeling the same but have extra inspiration after a long summer of controversy and conflict across the country. One week after Harvey made landfall there are people still flooding in Texas.

South of Houston, I have a friend that is experiencing Harvey for a second time as the runoff is filling the streams, rivers and reservoirs as it heads back to the gulf.  Her house built in the 60’s that has never flooded is about to fill with water.

The inspiring part; her, her daughter, her MIL, SIL are all being rescued and going to her ex’s house with his wife and their two daughters. They are a group of people that still love and care for one another and understand we are more to each than our differences. I have seen this family come together before and it’s an inspiring thing. ❤️

Added to that, her ex is a law enforcement officer who has been working soaking wet for days to help others.

Texans are strong. Keep your prayers going for them It’s not over yet.

Feeling very philosophical on this flight home from Dallas.  It was a journey of love and devotion with uncertain results and conclusions.  

However, after  a couple of Bloody Mary’s which always seem to  taste so superb in-flights my seatmate shows me an article that says there is a scientific reason they taste better at 30,000 feet.  

Anyway back to my sentimental musings… I just watched “Collateral Beauty” with Will Smith.  Oh my gosh… now I am boo-hooing in my seat and those around me are thinking I should have skipped the Bloody Mary’s (the very good 30,000 feet ones).  

The movie is a real heart string puller about life, love and death and time… all of which I have given a lot of thought to in recent years. 

Which once again brings me back to a quote from Lee Cowin from four years ago…

[This tragedy] serves as reminder that “we don’t get to set life’s clock.” and that while we all think we have a tomorrow to say whatever we need to say, sometimes tomorrow never comes.

And…. people wonder why there is so much divisiveness, anger, and unrest in our country? Look no further than “Our Little Town.”

In a nutshell, a female someone parked in a “restaurant only” parking spot and went to a movie next door. She claims she intended to eat at the restaurant following the movie. Well, when she exited the movie theatre her car had been towed. She claims that when she confronted the restaurateur he yelled at her and was unkind. (Something tells me she might have been a bit excited too, but doesn’t say.)

The female movie goer makes a post on a town blog and then on Yelp. Following her post, hundreds of the townspeople have taken on her offense and began telling people not to patronize the restaurant. Even more people started relaying awful experiences they had at said restaurant which previously had mostly rave reviews.

In the restaurateur’s defense, another group started posting that they love the place. They tell it is clearly marked parking is for the restaurant only and perhaps the movie goer should have checked with restauranteur before leaving her vehicle for an hour and a half.

So here it is… people have taken sides in the debate and are attacking each other over something that did not even involve them, they did not witness, they know not all the facts and really is inconsequential in the bigger picture of things.

Finally, one can keep this little fact in mind… “Our Little Town” ~ North Bend, WA – the home of Twin Peaks! A show described as quirky, surreal, melodramatic, supernatural, and with dubious activities.

New episodes coming soon on your TV and just down the street.

Twin Peaks Teaser Billboards Go Up, Revealing Nothing But Cherry Pie (At First Sight)

The timing of connections and losses are the fine intricate dance of life.

Life is fragile – knowing that nothing about tomorrow is guaranteed.

Why does one door open as another closes? What reasoning keeps them closed until the opportunity is past?

There is a  familial connection through our DNA that binds are hearts tenderly with a golden thread.

Know that the paths which are directed by God are ones with design and purpose. Embrace those along that way.

We may never understand these tragedies of life. These are the mysteries of life that are only God’s to know.

Trish
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I’m claiming divine protection here for myself and my coworker, CJ —

Last Wednesday I was in a rush to get out the door for a trip to Denver. When CJ arrived at work she told me there were two young women sitting at the bottom of the stairs. She went down and talk to them and they said they were just trying to stay out of the rain while waiting for a ride.

Well an hour later they were still there wandering around; they’d come into the office and asked for money. Their original story had changed — it was all very suspicious. I asked CJ to call the police because I thought maybe they might be some young women that were being targeted for sex trafficking.

CJ said they’d claimed they had arrived via bus from a town nearby and they just needed a ride back they wanted to go to an area about 75 miles south. I told CJ I’m heading to the airport I could drop them off in the next town over.

Both CJ and another coworker strongly urged me not to do it.

Well only a few hour later the news was that two women in Town had carjacked someone and caused a serious accident.

Today we find out it was the two women outside the office. They had stolen a truck from another town and had guns that were stolen as well, after hanging around our office for two hours they went down to the retirement centre and tried to carjack an elderly lady.
The manager at the retirement centre came to her aid and was attacked as well. They fled in the truck at a high rate of speed they caused a head on collision with another car and were apprehended by the police.

An officer came to the office today and we are going to provide a video for them.

So as I said, I believe CJ and I were both divinely protected and I believe CJ’s straight talking and compassionate but firm kindness kept us from harm.

Thankful